Instead of locking both the lower and upper vnodes, which is both
complex and deadlock-prone, only lock the upper vnode, or the lower
vnode if no upper vnode is present.
In most cases this is all that is needed; for the cases in which
both vnodes do need to be locked, this change also employs deadlock-
avoiding techniques such as LK_NOWAIT and vn_lock_pair().
There are still some corner cases in which the current implementation
ends up taking multiple vnode locks across different filesystems
without taking special steps to avoid deadlock; those cases have
been noted in the comments.