Move backend-specific fields of kaiocb into a union.
This reduces the size of kaiocb slightly. I've also added some generic
fields that other backends can use in place of the BIO-specific fields.
Change the socket and Chelsio DDP backends to use 'backend3' instead of
abusing _aiocb_private.status directly. This confines the use of
_aiocb_private to the AIO internals in vfs_aio.c.