Add Makefile.depend.options
Leaf directories that have dependencies impacted
by options need a Makefile.depend.options file
to avoid churn in Makefile.depend
DIRDEPS for cases such as OPENSSL, TCP_WRAPPERS etc
can be set in local.dirdeps-options.mk
which can add to those set in Makefile.depend.options
See share/mk/dirdeps-options.mk
Also update affected Makefile.depend files.
MFC of r355616 and r355617
Reviewed by: bdrewery
Sponsored by: Juniper Networks
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D22469