vfs: change si_usecount management to count used vnodes

Currently si_usecount is effectively a sum of usecounts from all associated
vnodes. This is maintained by special-casing for VCHR every time usecount is
modified. Apart from complicating the code a little bit, it has a scalability
impact since it forces a read from a cacheline shared with said count.

There are no consumers of the feature in the ports tree. In head there are only
2: revoke and devfs_close. Both can get away with a weaker requirement than the
exact usecount, namely just the count of active vnodes. Changing the meaning to
the latter means we only need to modify it on 0<->1 transitions, avoiding the
check plenty of times (and entirely in something like vrefact).

Reviewed by: kib, jeff
Tested by: pho
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D22202