Restore the ability to deregister an eventhandler from within the callback.

When the EVENTHANDLER(9) subsystem was created, it was a documented feature
that an eventhandler callback function could safely deregister itself. In
r200652 that feature was inadvertantly broken by adding drain-wait logic to
eventhandler_deregister(), so that it would be safe to unload a module upon
return from deregistering its event handlers.

There are now 145 callers of EVENTHANDLER_DEREGISTER(), and it's likely many
of them are depending on the drain-wait logic that has been in place for 8
years. So instead of creating a separate eventhandler_drain() and adding it
to some or all of those 145 call sites, this creates a separate
eventhandler_drain_nowait() function for the specific purpose of
deregistering a callback from within the running callback.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D12561