netpfil: Use accessor functions and named constants for all tcphdr flags

Update all remaining references to the struct tcphdr th_x2 field.
This completes the compatibilty of various aspects with AccECN
(TH_AE), after the internal ipfw "re-checksum required" was moved
to use the TH_RES1 flag.

No functional change.

Reviewed By: tuexen, transport, glebius
Sponsored by: NetApp, Inc.
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D43172