carp: support unicast

Allow users to configure the address to send carp messages to. This
allows carp to be used in unicast mode, which is useful in certain
virtual configurations (e.g. AWS, VMWare ESXi, ...)

Reviewed by: melifaro
Sponsored by: Rubicon Communications, LLC ("Netgate")
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D38940