Honor the disabled setting for MSI-X interrupts for passthrough devices.

Add a new ioctl to disable all MSI-X interrupts for a PCI passthrough
device and invoke it if a write to the MSI-X capability registers
disables MSI-X. This avoids leaving MSI-X interrupts enabled on the
host if a guest device driver has disabled them (e.g. as part of
detaching a guest device driver).

This was found by Chelsio QA when testing that a Linux guest could
switch from MSI-X to MSI interrupts when using the cxgb4vf driver.

While here, explicitly fail requests to enable MSI on a passthrough
device if MSI-X is enabled and vice versa.

Reported by: Sony Arpita Das @ Chelsio
Reviewed by: grehan, markj
MFC after: 2 weeks
Sponsored by: Chelsio Communications
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D27212