vmspace: Convert to refcount(9)

This is mostly mechanical except for vmspace_exit(). There, use the new
refcount_release_if_last() to avoid switching to vmspace0 unless other
processes are sharing the vmspace. In that case, upon switching to
vmspace0 we can unconditionally release the reference.

Remove the volatile qualifier from vm_refcnt now that accesses are
protected using refcount(9) KPIs.

Reviewed by: alc, kib, mmel
MFC after: 1 month
Sponsored by: The FreeBSD Foundation
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D27057