kern_shm_open: push O_CLOEXEC into caller control

The motivation for this change is to allow wrappers around shm to be written
that don't set CLOEXEC. kern_shm_open currently accepts O_CLOEXEC but sets
it unconditionally. kern_shm_open is used by the shm_open(2) syscall, which
is mandated by POSIX to set CLOEXEC, and CloudABI's sys_fd_create1().
Presumably O_CLOEXEC is intended in the latter caller, but it's unclear from
the context.

sys_shm_open() now unconditionally sets O_CLOEXEC to meet POSIX
requirements, and a comment has been dropped in to kern_fd_open() to explain
the situation and add a pointer to where O_CLOEXEC setting is maintained for
shm_open(2) correctness. CloudABI's sys_fd_create1() also unconditionally
sets O_CLOEXEC to match previous behavior.

This also has the side-effect of making flags correctly reflect the
O_CLOEXEC status on this fd for the rest of kern_shm_open(), but a
glance-over leads me to believe that it didn't really matter.

Reviewed by: kib, markj
MFC after: 1 week
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D21119