Add kernel support for the NFS client forced dismount "umount -N" option.

When an NFS mount is hung against an unresponsive NFS server, the "umount -f"
option can be used to dismount the mount. Unfortunately, "umount -f" gets
hung as well if a "umount" without "-f" has already been done. Usually,
this is because of a vnode lock being held by the "umount" for the mounted-on
vnode.
This patch adds kernel code so that a new "-N" option can be added to "umount",
allowing it to avoid getting hung for this case.
It adds two flags. One indicates that a forced dismount is about to happen
and the other is used, along with setting mnt_data == NULL, to handshake
with the nfs_unmount() VFS call.
It includes a slight change to the interface used between the client and
common NFS modules, so I bumped __FreeBSD_version to ensure both modules are
rebuilt.

Tested by: pho
Reviewed by: kib
MFC after: 2 weeks
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D11735