tcp: remove IS_FASTOPEN() macro

The macro is more obfuscating than helping as it just checks a single flag
of t_flags. All other t_flags bits are checked without a macro.

A bigger problem was that declaration of the macro in tcp_var.h depended
on a kernel option. It is a bad practice to create such definitions in
installable headers.

Reviewed by: rscheff, tuexen, kib
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D44362