Load balance sockets with new SO_REUSEPORT_LB option.

This patch adds a new socket option, SO_REUSEPORT_LB, which allow multiple
programs or threads to bind to the same port and incoming connections will be
load balanced using a hash function.

Most of the code was copied from a similar patch for DragonflyBSD.

However, in DragonflyBSD, load balancing is a global on/off setting and can not
be set per socket. This patch allows for simultaneous use of both the current
SO_REUSEPORT and the new SO_REUSEPORT_LB options on the same system.

Required changes to structures:
Globally change so_options from 16 to 32 bit value to allow for more options.
Add hashtable in pcbinfo to hold all SO_REUSEPORT_LB sockets.

Limitations:
As DragonflyBSD, a load balance group is limited to 256 pcbs (256 programs or
threads sharing the same socket).

This is a substantially different contribution as compared to its original
incarnation at svn r332894 and reverted at svn r332967. Thanks to rwatson@
for the substantive feedback that is included in this commit.

Submitted by: Johannes Lundberg <johalun0@gmail.com>
Obtained from: DragonflyBSD
Relnotes: Yes
Sponsored by: Limelight Networks
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D11003