Fix spurious ENOTCONN from closed unix domain socket other' side.

Sometimes, when doing read(2) over unix domain socket, for which the
other side socket was closed, read(2) returns -1/ENOTCONN instead of
EOF AKA zero-size read. This is because soreceive_generic() does not
lock socket when testing the so_state SS_ISCONNECTED|SS_ISCONNECTING
flags. It could end up that we do not observe so->so_rcv.sb_state bit
SBS_CANTRCVMORE, and then miss SS_ flags.

Change the test to check that the socket was never connected before
returning ENOTCONN, by adding all state bits for connected.

Reported and tested by: pho
In collaboration with: markj
Sponsored by: The FreeBSD Foundation
MFC after: 1 week
Differential revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D24819