Generalize lazy dequeue logic for wired pages.

Some recent work aims to remove the use of the page lock for
synchronizing updates to page queue state. This change adds a mechanism
to preserve the existing behaviour of lazily dequeuing wired pages,
which was previously synchronized using the page lock.

Handle this by setting PGA_DEQUEUE when a managed page's wire count
transitions from 0 to 1. When the page daemon encounters a page with a
flag in PGA_QUEUE_OP_MASK set, it creates a batch queue entry for that
page, but in so doing it does not modify the page itself and thus racing
with a concurrent free of the page is harmless. The flag is advisory;
the page daemon still checks for wirings after acquiring the object and
page xbusy locks.

vm_page_unwire_managed() now clears PGA_DEQUEUE on a 1->0 transition.
It must do this before dropping the reference to avoid a use-after-free
but also handles races with concurrent wirings to ensure that
PGA_DEQUEUE is not left unset on a wired page.

Reviewed by: jeff
Tested by: pho
Sponsored by: Netflix, Intel
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D22882