Implement nvme suspend / resume for pci attachment

When we suspend, we need to properly shutdown the NVME controller. The
controller may go into D3 state (or may have the power removed), and
to properly flush the metadata to non-volatile RAM, we must complete a
normal shutdown. This consists of deleting the I/O queues and setting
the shutodown bit. We have to do some extra stuff to make sure we
reset the software state of the queues as well.

On resume, we have to reset the card twice, for reasons described in
the attach funcion. Once we've done that, we can restart the card. If
any of this fails, we'll fail the NVMe card, just like we do when a
reset fails.

Set is_resetting for the duration of the suspend / resume. This keeps
the reset taskqueue from running a concurrent reset, and also is
needed to prevent any hw completions from queueing more I/O to the
card. Pass resetting flag to nvme_ctrlr_start. It doesn't need to get
that from the global state of the ctrlr. Wait for any pending reset to
finish. All queued I/O will get sent to the hardware as part of
nvme_ctrlr_start(), though the upper layers shouldn't send any
down. Disabling the qpairs is the other failsafe to ensure all I/O is
queued.

Rename nvme_ctrlr_destory_qpairs to nvme_ctrlr_delete_qpairs to avoid
confusion with all the other destroy functions. It just removes the
queues in hardware, while the other _destroy_ functions tear down
driver data structures.

Split parts of the hardware reset function up so that I can
do part of the reset in suspsend. Split out the software disabling
of the qpairs into nvme_ctrlr_disable_qpairs.

Finally, fix a couple of spelling errors in comments related to
this.

Relnotes: Yes
MFC After: 1 week
Reviewed by: scottl@ (prior version)
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D21493