Refactor domainset iterators for use by malloc(9) and UMA.

Before this change we had two flavours of vm_domainset iterators: "page"
and "malloc". The latter was only used for kmem_*() and hard-coded its
behaviour based on kernel_object's policy. Moreover, its use contained
a race similar to that fixed by r338755 since the kernel_object's
iterator was being run without the object lock.

In some cases it is useful to be able to explicitly specify a policy
(domainset) or policy+iterator (domainset_ref) when performing memory
allocations. To that end, refactor the vm_dominset_* KPI to permit
this, and get rid of the "malloc" domainset_iter KPI in the process.

Reviewed by: jeff (previous version)
Tested by: pho (part of a larger patch)
MFC after: 2 weeks
Sponsored by: The FreeBSD Foundation
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D17417