Revisit blacklistd support in ftpd
Enhance blacklistd support to not log anything by default,
unless blacklistd support is enabled on the command line.
Document new flag in man page, cleanup patches to be less
intrusive in code.
Reported by: Rick Adams
Reviewed by: cem, emaste
MFC after: 1 week
Sponsored by: The FreeBSD Foundation
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D8374