Fix lagg failover due to missing notifications

When using lagg failover mode neither Gratuitous ARP (IPv4) or Unsolicited
Neighbour Advertisements (IPv6) are sent to notify other nodes that the
address may have moved.

This results is slow failover, dropped packets and network outages for the
lagg interface when the primary link goes down.

We now use the new if_link_state_change_cond with the force param set to
allow lagg to force through link state changes and hence fire a
ifnet_link_event which are now monitored by rip and nd6.

Upon receiving these events each protocol trigger the relevant
notifications:

• inet4 => Gratuitous ARP
• inet6 => Unsolicited Neighbour Announce

This also fixes the carp IPv6 NA's that stopped working after r251584 which
added the ipv6_route__llma route.

The new behavour can be controlled using the sysctls:

• net.link.ether.inet.arp_on_link
• net.inet6.icmp6.nd6_on_link

Also removed unused param from lagg_port_state and added descriptions for the
sysctls while here.

PR: 156226
MFC after: 1 month
Sponsored by: Multiplay
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D4111