Move the bus_dma_tag creation and per-transaction data allocation from
xbd_initialize to xbd_connect. Both of these initialization steps need
to know what the maximum possible I/O size will be, and when we gain
support for indirect segment I/Os we won't know that value until we
reach xbd_connect. Since none of this data is used before xbd_connect
completes, moving the initialization is harmless.

This commit should not result in any functional changes.