In r214728, if dlopen() is called for the object that has been already
loaded as a dependency and marked -z nodlopen, object' DAG is already
initialized by load_needed_objects(). Due to this, the init_dag() call
from dlopen() does not increment refcount for the object [1].

Change init_dag() to not increment DAG refcount. Require explicit calls
to ref_dag() to increment, and assert that ref_dag() and unref_dag()
are called for root that has dag initialized. To fix the noted issue,
unconditionally call both init_dag() and ref_dag() in dlopen() for the
case when the object was already loaded, making it similar to the case
of newly loaded object.

Noted by: jh [1]
Reviewed by: jh, kan
MFC after: 6 days