Re-embed multilist_t storage

This commit partially reverts changes to multilists in PR 7968
(multi-threaded spa-sync()) and adds some cache line alignments to
separate read-only multilists and heavily modified refcount's to different
cache lines.

Reviewed-by: Matthew Ahrens <mahrens@delphix.com>
Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Signed-off-by: Alexander Motin <mav@FreeBSD.org>
Sponsored-by: iXsystems, Inc.
Closes #12158