sctp: Fix a lock order reversal in sctp_swap_inpcb_for_listen()

When port reuse is enabled in a one-to-one-style socket, sctp_listen()
may call sctp_swap_inpcb_for_listen() to move the PCB out of the "TCP
pool". In so doing it will drop the PCB lock, yielding an LOR since we
now hold several socket locks. Reorder sctp_listen() so that it
performs this operation before beginning the conversion to a listening
socket. Also modify sctp_swap_inpcb_for_listen() to return with PCB
write-locked, since that's what sctp_listen() expects now.

Reviewed by: tuexen
Fixes: bd4a39cc93d9 ("socket: Properly interlock when transitioning to a listening socket")
MFC after: 1 month
Sponsored by: The FreeBSD Foundation
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D31879