mmc: Use bus_topo_lock and taskqueue_bus while adding/removing child devices

Some drivers held regular mutexes across some new-bus calls; instead
depend on bus_topo_lock to protect the relevant softc members. This
also fixes the bus_topo_lock to be explicit in these drivers rather
than relying on the implicit Giant from taskqueue_swi_giant. It
avoids calling sleepable routines like device_probe_and_attach from an
swi context.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D49270

(cherry picked from commit c0bed9bd0bda2ca9239f5913cd2d5c1bd5d29bfa)