Introduce dsl_dir_diduse_transfer_space()

Most of dsl_dir_diduse_space() and dsl_dir_transfer_space() CPU time
is a dd_lock overhead and time spent in dmu_buf_will_dirty(). Calling
them one after another is a waste of time and even more contention.
Doing that twice for each rewritten block within dbuf_write_done()
via dsl_dataset_block_kill() and dsl_dataset_block_born() created one
of the biggest CPU overheads in case of small blocks rewrite.

dsl_dir_diduse_transfer_space() combines functionality of these two
functions for cases where it is needed, but without double overhead,
practically for the cost of dsl_dir_diduse_space() or even cheaper.

While there, optimize dsl_dir_phys() calls in dsl_dir_diduse_space()
and dsl_dir_transfer_space(). It seems Clang detects some aliasing
there, repeating dd->dd_dbuf->db_data dereference multiple times,
increasing dd_lock scope and contention.

Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Reviewed-by: Matthew Ahrens <mahrens@delphix.com>
Author: Ryan Moeller <ryan@iXsystems.com>
Signed-off-by: Alexander Motin <mav@FreeBSD.org>
Sponsored-By: iXsystems, Inc.
Closes #12300