daemon: stop rebuilding the kqueue every restart of the child

We populate the kqueue with all of four kevents: three signal handlers and
one for read of the child pipe. Every time we start the child, we rebuild
this kqueue from scratch for the child and tear it down before we exit and
check if we need to restart the child. As a consequence, we effectively
drop any of the signals we're interested in between restarts.

Push the kqueue out into the daemon state to avoid losing any signal events
in the process, and reimplement the restart timer in terms of kqueue timers.
The pipe read event will be automatically deleted upon last close, which
leaves us with only the signal events that really get retained between
restarts of the child.

PR: 277959
Reviewed by: des, markj

(cherry picked from commit bc1dfc316a2bba97773a14b96f5e976a52524be4)