emulators/wine: Improve configuration for ALSA and OSS

Use ALSA_CONFIGURE_WITH and OSS_CONFIGURE_WITH instead of the
ALSA_CONFIGURE_ON and OSS_CONFIGURE_ON forms.

This properly handles the case where neither the ALSA nor OSS option
are set. It's more resilient to future changes. And shorter.

(This back ports 944eff5cfa5f from the wine-devel port.)

PR: 273987