databases/sqlite3: update to 3.41.0

Disable option DQS by default.
Add a note to UPDATING about this.

See also: https://sqlite.org/quirks.html#dblquote
Changelog: https://sqlite.org/releaselog/3_41_0.html

PR: 269798
Approved by: flo (mentor)
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D38774