graphics/openexr*: upgrade to 3.3.0

This changes the ABI (but not the API) and .so file name,
so we will need to bump all PORTREVISIONs of users, and we'll also fix
graphics/ctl and multimedia/olive.

This is not going to be MFHd to 2024Q4 due to API change, and therefore
has also waited for 2024Q4 to branch before we committed this to main,
so as to avoid 2024Q4 breakage.

ChangeLog: https://github.com/AcademySoftwareFoundation/openexr/releases/tag/v3.3.0
PR: 281859