Avoid panic with recordsize > 128k, raw sending and no large_blocks

The current codebase does not support raw sending buffers with block
size > 128kB when large_blocks is not active. This can happen in the
codepath dsl_dataset_sync()->dmu_objset_sync()->zio_nowait() which
calls back dmu_objset_write_done()->dsl_dataset_block_born(). If
dsl_dataset_sync() completes its run before dsl_dataset_block_born() is
called, we will end up not activating some of the necessary flags, while
having blocks based on those flags written in the filesystem. A
subsequent send will then panic.

Fix this by directly deciding in dmu_objset_sync() whether these flags
need to be activated later by dsl_dataset_sync(). Instead of panicking
due to a NULL pointer dereference in dmu_dump_write() in case of a send,
print out an error message. Also during scrub verify there are no
contradicting filesystem flags.

Reviewed-by: Paul Dagnelie <pcd@delphix.com>
Signed-off-by: George Amanakis <gamanakis@gmail.com>
Closes #12275
Closes #12438