ddt_zap: standardise temp buffer allocations

Always do them on the heap, and when we know how much we need, only that
much.

Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Signed-off-by: Rob Norris <rob.norris@klarasystems.com>
Sponsored-by: Klara, Inc.
Sponsored-by: iXsystems, Inc.
Closes #15887