Verify --with-linux source directory exists

Previously this check was only performed when ./configure was
attempting to autodetect your kernel source directory. But we
should also handle the case where --with-linux was provided
and is obviously wrong. This way we catch the error before
invoking make and compiling the source with an incorrect
autoconf results.

Signed-off-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Closes zfsonlinux/spl#162