zed: mark disks as REMOVED when they are removed

ZED does not take any action for disk removal events if there is no
spare VDEV available. Added zpool_vdev_remove_wanted() in libzfs
and vdev_remove_wanted() in vdev.c to remove the VDEV through ZED
on removal event. This means that if you are running zed and
remove a disk, it will be properly marked as REMOVED.

Reviewed-by: Alexander Motin <mav@FreeBSD.org>
Reviewed-by: Ryan Moeller <ryan@iXsystems.com>
Reviewed-by: Tony Hutter <hutter2@llnl.gov>
Signed-off-by: Ameer Hamza <ahamza@ixsystems.com>
Closes #13797