Add KMODDIR to install target

Provide a mechanism to control the directory name the modules
are installed in. The kernel privdes INSTALL_MOD_DIR for
this but it was hardcoded to be 'addon/spl'.

Add a KMODDIR variable which can be passed to 'make install'
to override the default directory name. While we're here
change the default from 'addon/spl' to 'extra' which is the
kernel.org default.

Signed-off-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>