net/wireshark: Update to 4.0.4 and refactor the port logic

See https://www.wireshark.org/docs/relnotes/wireshark-4.0.4.html for a
list of changes in wireshark.

This port features the following modifications:

• Use of helpers and consistent usage
• Refresh dependency list
• Use (lib)speexdsp from tree
• Add brotli as dependency, used for compressing data over HTTP2
• Flavourize port and create two variants, one including UI and one without (-nox11)
• Disable detection of git for Wireshark's build
• Rework and consolidate options, try to be as consistent as possible with the rest of the tree
• Rename DECRYPT option to GNUTLS
• Move various *dump tools to one option as they share the same dependency (libssh)
• Make LTO default option on aarch64 and amd64
• RTP audio codecs are only used with GUI so make all use the same toggle

Thanks to diizzy for his refactoring work. One thing to note for uses
of the -lite ports is that they are going away. Flavors should be used
to build wireshark with the GUI (default) or without the GUI (nox11).

PR: 269103
Submitted by: diizzy [port refactoring]