zfs: merge openzfs/zfs@52bad4f23 (zfs-2.1-release) into stable/13

OpenZFS release 2.1.4

Notable upstream pull request merges:

#13219 FreeBSD: add missing replay check to an assert in zfs_xvattr_set
#13220 module: freebsd: avoid a taking a destroyed lock in zfs_zevent bits
#13221 Fix ACL checks for NFS kernel server

Obtained from: OpenZFS
OpenZFS tag: zfs-2.1.4
OpenZFS commit: 52bad4f23daaa5f827f802c8d05785a27b80275d
Relnotes: yes
Approved by: re (gjb)

(cherry picked from commit c088e4d539e4cc947896a3b156646b831d932539)