Allow stacked filesystems to be recursively unmounted

In certain emergency cases such as media failure or removal, UFS will
initiate a forced unmount in order to prevent dirty buffers from
accumulating against the no-longer-usable filesystem. The presence
of a stacked filesystem such as nullfs or unionfs above the UFS mount
will prevent this forced unmount from succeeding.

This change addreses the situation by allowing stacked filesystems to
be recursively unmounted on a taskqueue thread when the MNT_RECURSE
flag is specified to dounmount(). This call will block until all upper
mounts have been removed unless the caller specifies the MNT_DEFERRED
flag to indicate the base filesystem should also be unmounted from the
taskqueue.

To achieve this, the recently-added vfs_pin_from_vp()/vfs_unpin() KPIs
have been combined with the existing 'mnt_uppers' list used by nullfs
and renamed to vfs_register_upper_from_vp()/vfs_unregister_upper().
The format of the mnt_uppers list has also been changed to accommodate
filesystems such as unionfs in which a given mount may be stacked atop
more than one lower mount. Additionally, management of lower FS
reclaim/unlink notifications has been split into a separate list
managed by a separate set of KPIs, as registration of an upper FS no
longer implies interest in these notifications.

Reviewed by: kib, mckusick
Tested by: pho
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D31016