tools/build: Improve host-symlinks failure mode

Since set -e is enabled by sys.mk, if the tool cannot be found in PATH
then the entire shell command line fails, causing us to not print the
error message below and instead silently (due to the @) fail, only
getting the usual "Error code 1" print from bmake. Thus, provide a dummy
default that will never exist (the same as is used by meta2deps.sh) if
which fails so that we get the error message as intended.

(cherry picked from commit 8c9e45503fe41732f72e1a4cc9a231e63b4289ba)