Index: sys/netinet/tcp_input.c
===================================================================
--- sys/netinet/tcp_input.c
+++ sys/netinet/tcp_input.c
@@ -1497,18 +1497,25 @@
 	 * the TIME_WAIT state before coming here, we need
 	 * to check if the socket is still connected.
 	 */
-	if ((so->so_state & SS_ISCONNECTED) == 0)
+	if (tp == NULL) {
+		log(2, "%s#%d: tp is NULL\n", __func__, __LINE__);
 		return;
+	}
+	if (so == NULL) {
+		log(2, "%s#%d: so is NULL\n", __func__, __LINE__);
+		return;
+	}
+	if ((so->so_state & SS_ISCONNECTED) == 0) {
+		log(2, "%s#%d: socket no longer connected, so_rcv is %slocked. called from: %pS, set at %d\n",
+		    __func__, __LINE__, (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR)?"":"not ",
+		    __builtin_return_address(0), tp->cl4_spare);
+	}
 	INP_LOCK_ASSERT(tp->t_inpcb);
 	if (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR) {
 		tp->t_flags &= ~TF_WAKESOR;
-		SOCKBUF_UNLOCK_ASSERT(&so->so_rcv);
-		sorwakeup(so);
-	}
-	if (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOW) {
-		tp->t_flags &= ~TF_WAKESOW;
-		SOCKBUF_UNLOCK_ASSERT(&so->so_snd);
-		sowwakeup(so);
+		tp->cl4_spare = 0;
+		SOCKBUF_LOCK_ASSERT(&so->so_rcv);
+		sorwakeup_locked(so);
 	}
 }
 
@@ -1536,6 +1543,12 @@
 	struct tcphdr tcp_savetcp;
 	short ostate = 0;
 #endif
+
+	if ((tp != NULL) && (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR)) {
+	log(2, "%s: WAKESOR left over from last invocation: %d\n", __func__, tp->cl4_spare);
+	tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
+	}
+
 	thflags = th->th_flags;
 	inc = &tp->t_inpcb->inp_inc;
 	tp->sackhint.last_sack_ack = 0;
@@ -1886,7 +1899,7 @@
 				else if (!tcp_timer_active(tp, TT_PERSIST))
 					tcp_timer_activate(tp, TT_REXMT,
 						      tp->t_rxtcur);
-				tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOW;
+				sowwakeup(so);
 				if (sbavail(&so->so_snd))
 					(void) tp->t_fb->tfb_tcp_output(tp);
 				goto check_delack;
@@ -1951,8 +1964,8 @@
 				m_adj(m, drop_hdrlen);	/* delayed header drop */
 				sbappendstream_locked(&so->so_rcv, m, 0);
 			}
-			SOCKBUF_UNLOCK(&so->so_rcv);
-			tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOR;
+			/* NB: sorwakeup_locked() does an implicit unlock. */
+			sorwakeup_locked(so);
 			if (DELAY_ACK(tp, tlen)) {
 				tp->t_flags |= TF_DELACK;
 			} else {
@@ -2490,9 +2503,11 @@
 		 * If segment contains data or ACK, will call tcp_reass()
 		 * later; if not, do so now to pass queued data to user.
 		 */
-		if (tlen == 0 && (thflags & TH_FIN) == 0)
+		if (tlen == 0 && (thflags & TH_FIN) == 0) {
 			(void) tcp_reass(tp, (struct tcphdr *)0, NULL, 0,
 			    (struct mbuf *)0);
+			tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
+		}
 		tp->snd_wl1 = th->th_seq - 1;
 		/* FALLTHROUGH */
 
@@ -2926,7 +2941,6 @@
 		 * the congestion window.
 		 */
 		cc_ack_received(tp, th, nsegs, CC_ACK);
-
 		SOCKBUF_LOCK(&so->so_snd);
 		if (acked > sbavail(&so->so_snd)) {
 			if (tp->snd_wnd >= sbavail(&so->so_snd))
@@ -2944,8 +2958,8 @@
 				tp->snd_wnd = 0;
 			ourfinisacked = 0;
 		}
-		SOCKBUF_UNLOCK(&so->so_snd);
-		tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOW;
+		/* NB: sowwakeup_locked() does an implicit unlock. */
+		sowwakeup_locked(so);
 		m_freem(mfree);
 		/* Detect una wraparound. */
 		if (!IN_RECOVERY(tp->t_flags) &&
@@ -3003,6 +3017,10 @@
 		 */
 		case TCPS_CLOSING:
 			if (ourfinisacked) {
+				if ((tp != NULL) && (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR)) {
+				log(2, "%s#%d: WAKESOR left over from: %d\n", __func__,__LINE__, tp->cl4_spare);
+				tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
+				}
 				tcp_twstart(tp);
 				m_freem(m);
 				return;
@@ -3166,8 +3184,8 @@
 				m_freem(m);
 			else
 				sbappendstream_locked(&so->so_rcv, m, 0);
-			SOCKBUF_UNLOCK(&so->so_rcv);
 			tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOR;
+			tp->cl4_spare = 1;
 		} else {
 			/*
 			 * XXX: Due to the header drop above "th" is
@@ -3212,6 +3230,7 @@
 				    save_start + tlen);
 			}
 		}
+		tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
 #if 0
 		/*
 		 * Note the amount of data that peer has sent into
@@ -3235,9 +3254,13 @@
 	 */
 	if (thflags & TH_FIN) {
 		if (TCPS_HAVERCVDFIN(tp->t_state) == 0) {
-			socantrcvmore(so);
-			/* The socket upcall is handled by socantrcvmore. */
-			tp->t_flags &= ~TF_WAKESOR;
+			if (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR) {
+				/* The socket upcall is handled by socantrcvmore. */
+				tp->t_flags &= ~TF_WAKESOR;
+				tp->cl4_spare = 0;
+				socantrcvmore_locked(so);
+			} else
+				socantrcvmore(so);
 			/*
 			 * If connection is half-synchronized
 			 * (ie NEEDSYN flag on) then delay ACK,
@@ -3277,6 +3300,10 @@
 		 * standard timers.
 		 */
 		case TCPS_FIN_WAIT_2:
+			if ((tp != NULL) && (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR)) {
+			log(2, "%s#%d: WAKESOR left over from: %d\n", __func__,__LINE__, tp->cl4_spare);
+			tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
+			}
 			tcp_twstart(tp);
 			return;
 		}
@@ -3288,6 +3315,10 @@
 #endif
 	TCP_PROBE3(debug__input, tp, th, m);
 
+	if ((tp != NULL) && (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR)) {
+		log(2, "%s#%d: handling WAKESOR finally from %d\n", __func__,__LINE__, tp->cl4_spare);
+		tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
+	}
 	/*
 	 * Return any desired output.
 	 */
@@ -3301,7 +3332,10 @@
 		tp->t_flags &= ~TF_DELACK;
 		tcp_timer_activate(tp, TT_DELACK, tcp_delacktime);
 	}
-	tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
+	if ((tp != NULL) && (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR)) {
+		log(2, "%s#%d: WAKESOR left over from: %d\n", __func__,__LINE__, tp->cl4_spare);
+		tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
+	}
 	INP_WUNLOCK(tp->t_inpcb);
 	return;
 
@@ -3333,17 +3367,23 @@
 			  &tcp_savetcp, 0);
 #endif
 	TCP_PROBE3(debug__input, tp, th, m);
+	if ((tp != NULL) && (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR)) {
+		log(2, "%s#%d: WAKESOR left over from: %d\n", __func__,__LINE__, tp->cl4_spare);
+		tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
+	}
 	tp->t_flags |= TF_ACKNOW;
 	(void) tp->t_fb->tfb_tcp_output(tp);
-	tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
 	INP_WUNLOCK(tp->t_inpcb);
 	m_freem(m);
 	return;
 
 dropwithreset:
 	if (tp != NULL) {
+		if ((tp != NULL) && (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR)) {
+			log(2, "%s#%d: WAKESOR left over from: %d\n", __func__,__LINE__, tp->cl4_spare);
+			tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
+		}
 		tcp_dropwithreset(m, th, tp, tlen, rstreason);
-		tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
 		INP_WUNLOCK(tp->t_inpcb);
 	} else
 		tcp_dropwithreset(m, th, NULL, tlen, rstreason);
@@ -3360,7 +3400,10 @@
 #endif
 	TCP_PROBE3(debug__input, tp, th, m);
 	if (tp != NULL) {
-		tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
+		if ((tp != NULL ) && (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR)) {
+			log(2, "%s#%d: WAKESOR left over from: %d\n", __func__,__LINE__, tp->cl4_spare);
+			tcp_handle_wakeup(tp, so);
+		}
 		INP_WUNLOCK(tp->t_inpcb);
 	}
 	m_freem(m);
@@ -3428,9 +3471,13 @@
 		tcp_respond(tp, mtod(m, void *), th, m, th->th_seq+tlen,
 		    (tcp_seq)0, TH_RST|TH_ACK);
 	}
+	if ((tp != NULL) && (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR))
+	log(2, "%s#%d: WAKESOR left over from: %d\n", __func__,__LINE__, tp->cl4_spare);
 	return;
 drop:
 	m_freem(m);
+	if ((tp != NULL) && (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR))
+	log(2, "%s#%d: WAKESOR left over from: %d\n", __func__,__LINE__, tp->cl4_spare);
 }
 
 /*
Index: sys/netinet/tcp_reass.c
===================================================================
--- sys/netinet/tcp_reass.c
+++ sys/netinet/tcp_reass.c
@@ -959,8 +959,8 @@
 		} else {
 			sbappendstream_locked(&so->so_rcv, m, 0);
 		}
-		SOCKBUF_UNLOCK(&so->so_rcv);
 		tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOR;
+		tp->cl4_spare = 11;
 		return (flags);
 	}
 	if (tcp_new_limits) {
@@ -1108,7 +1108,7 @@
 #ifdef TCP_REASS_LOGGING
 	tcp_reass_log_dump(tp);
 #endif
-	SOCKBUF_UNLOCK(&so->so_rcv);
 	tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOR;
+	tp->cl4_spare = 12;
 	return (flags);
 }
Index: sys/netinet/tcp_stacks/bbr.c
===================================================================
--- sys/netinet/tcp_stacks/bbr.c
+++ sys/netinet/tcp_stacks/bbr.c
@@ -7876,8 +7876,8 @@
 	acked_amount = min(acked, (int)sbavail(&so->so_snd));
 	tp->snd_wnd -= acked_amount;
 	mfree = sbcut_locked(&so->so_snd, acked_amount);
-	SOCKBUF_UNLOCK(&so->so_snd);
-	tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOW;
+	/* NB: sowwakeup_locked() does an implicit unlock. */
+	sowwakeup_locked(so);
 	m_freem(mfree);
 	if (SEQ_GT(th->th_ack, tp->snd_una)) {
 		bbr_collapse_rtt(tp, bbr, TCP_REXMTVAL(tp));
@@ -8353,7 +8353,6 @@
 				appended =
 #endif
 					sbappendstream_locked(&so->so_rcv, m, 0);
-			SOCKBUF_UNLOCK(&so->so_rcv);
 			tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOR;
 #ifdef NETFLIX_SB_LIMITS
 			if (so->so_rcv.sb_shlim && appended != mcnt)
@@ -8415,9 +8414,12 @@
 	 */
 	if (thflags & TH_FIN) {
 		if (TCPS_HAVERCVDFIN(tp->t_state) == 0) {
-			socantrcvmore(so);
-			/* The socket upcall is handled by socantrcvmore. */
-			tp->t_flags &= ~TF_WAKESOR;
+			if (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR) {
+				/* The socket upcall is handled by socantrcvmore. */
+				tp->t_flags &= ~TF_WAKESOR;
+				socantrcvmore_locked(so);
+			} else
+				socantrcvmore(so);
 			/*
 			 * If connection is half-synchronized (ie NEEDSYN
 			 * flag on) then delay ACK, so it may be piggybacked
@@ -8608,7 +8610,6 @@
 			sbappendstream_locked(&so->so_rcv, m, 0);
 		ctf_calc_rwin(so, tp);
 	}
-	SOCKBUF_UNLOCK(&so->so_rcv);
 	tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOR;
 #ifdef NETFLIX_SB_LIMITS
 	if (so->so_rcv.sb_shlim && mcnt != appended)
@@ -8800,7 +8801,7 @@
 		    &tcp_savetcp, 0);
 #endif
 	/* Wake up the socket if we have room to write more */
-	tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOW;
+	sowwakeup(so);
 	if (tp->snd_una == tp->snd_max) {
 		/* Nothing left outstanding */
 		bbr_log_progress_event(bbr, tp, ticks, PROGRESS_CLEAR, __LINE__);
Index: sys/netinet/tcp_stacks/rack.c
===================================================================
--- sys/netinet/tcp_stacks/rack.c
+++ sys/netinet/tcp_stacks/rack.c
@@ -8344,8 +8344,8 @@
 		 */
 		ourfinisacked = 1;
 	}
-	SOCKBUF_UNLOCK(&so->so_snd);
-	tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOW;
+	/* NB: sowwakeup_locked() does an implicit unlock. */
+	sowwakeup_locked(so);
 	m_freem(mfree);
 	if (rack->r_ctl.rc_early_recovery == 0) {
 		if (IN_RECOVERY(tp->t_flags)) {
@@ -8665,7 +8665,6 @@
 				appended =
 #endif
 					sbappendstream_locked(&so->so_rcv, m, 0);
-			SOCKBUF_UNLOCK(&so->so_rcv);
 			tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOR;
 #ifdef NETFLIX_SB_LIMITS
 			if (so->so_rcv.sb_shlim && appended != mcnt)
@@ -8732,9 +8731,12 @@
 	 */
 	if (thflags & TH_FIN) {
 		if (TCPS_HAVERCVDFIN(tp->t_state) == 0) {
-			socantrcvmore(so);
-			/* The socket upcall is handled by socantrcvmore. */
-			tp->t_flags &= ~TF_WAKESOR;
+			if (tp->t_flags & TF_WAKESOR) {
+				/* The socket upcall is handled by socantrcvmore. */
+				tp->t_flags &= ~TF_WAKESOR;
+				socantrcvmore_locked(so);
+			} else
+				socantrcvmore(so);
 			/*
 			 * If connection is half-synchronized (ie NEEDSYN
 			 * flag on) then delay ACK, so it may be piggybacked
@@ -8926,7 +8928,6 @@
 			sbappendstream_locked(&so->so_rcv, m, 0);
 		ctf_calc_rwin(so, tp);
 	}
-	SOCKBUF_UNLOCK(&so->so_rcv);
 	tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOR;
 #ifdef NETFLIX_SB_LIMITS
 	if (so->so_rcv.sb_shlim && mcnt != appended)
@@ -9144,7 +9145,7 @@
 		rack_timer_cancel(tp, rack, rack->r_ctl.rc_rcvtime, __LINE__);
 	}
 	/* Wake up the socket if we have room to write more */
-	tp->t_flags |= TF_WAKESOW;
+	sowwakeup(so);
 	if (sbavail(&so->so_snd)) {
 		rack->r_wanted_output = 1;
 	}
Index: sys/netinet/tcp_var.h
===================================================================
--- sys/netinet/tcp_var.h
+++ sys/netinet/tcp_var.h
@@ -404,7 +404,7 @@
 #define	TF_FORCEDATA	0x00800000	/* force out a byte */
 #define	TF_TSO		0x01000000	/* TSO enabled on this connection */
 #define	TF_TOE		0x02000000	/* this connection is offloaded */
-#define	TF_WAKESOW	0x04000000	/* wake up send socket */
+#define	TF_UNUSED0	0x04000000	/* unused */
 #define	TF_UNUSED1	0x08000000	/* unused */
 #define	TF_UNUSED2	0x10000000	/* unused */
 #define	TF_CONGRECOVERY	0x20000000	/* congestion recovery mode */